Relationships Between Men And Women

Relationships between men and women in America are at a crossroad. The number of never married adults is steadily rising among the U.S. population, particularly among the young. It seems like men and women have forgotten how to talk to one another. According to an analysis of the 2019 census data done by the Pew Research Center, a rising share of US adults are living without a spouse or partner. The census data shows that the number of married adults went from 67% in 1990 down to 53% in 2019, while the number of unmarried and not living with a partner adults rose from 19% to 38%. We know that one the main factor driving this decline is that marriage has declined among the adults of prime working age. the question is why is this happening.

Reasons For This State Of affair

Now there is a myriad of reasons why this state of affair exists, let’s look at a few of them.

Unrealistic expectations of one another: Both men and women enter the dating scene with unrealistic expectations of what they want in a partner. This makes it difficult for them to find a partner that will satisfy all their requirements.

If we look at the economies of dating apps for example we can illustrate the problem. In most dating apps the ratio of men to women is two to one, there 2 men for every woman. With such an unbalance in favor of women, using dating apps to find a girlfriend is proving to be difficult for some men. Women, being in the minority, have the advantage of greater choice and control over who they engage with. This can lead to women being more selective, but it may also result in shorter or less meaningful interactions, as they are inundated with messages and offers.

This disparity can create a skewed user experience, where men are less likely to receive responses, and women may feel overwhelmed by attention. This imbalance may discourage men from staying active on the platform, while women might find it challenging to filter through the high volume of messages to find genuine connections.

Educational gender gap: With more women than men earning college degrees, women are reluctant to date down so to speak. While most men have no problem dating a woman less educated than they are, most women are not so willing to do the same. The truth is that women with college degree are not so willing to date men who do not have a college degree.

With more women earning college degrees, there is a growing educational gap between men and women. This can lead to challenges in finding partners with similar educational backgrounds or career aspirations, as some women may prefer partners with comparable education levels, limiting their dating pool.

Educated women often prioritize their careers, leading to a delay in marriage and family planning. The pursuit of professional success can also make it harder for women to find partners who are similarly career-oriented or willing to adapt to evolving relationship roles, potentially delaying or altering the course of romantic relationships.

One of the result of this gap in college degree is that men and women are moving in opposite direction politically and socially. Young men and women are no longer connecting either politically or socially. While Women and men with a college degree tend to be more liberal, men without a college degree tend to be more conservative, I am talking about the US here.

Political differences: One the result of this political divergence between men and women is that a lot women have made the conscious choice to not date a man with a different political orientation. It means that since most college educated women tend toward the liberal side, they are not willing to date conservative men.

Men who lack college degrees may feel politically marginalized or alienated, as policies may increasingly reflect the interests of a more educated, female-dominated electorate. This could deepen political divides, with men without degrees gravitating toward populist or anti-establishment movements, potentially leading to heightened political polarization based on gender and education levels.

Men Blaming Women

Angry young men: Listening to social media, particularly Twitter (X), and Youtube one can detect an increasing anger and rage toward women coming from young men. For some idiotic reasons some of them seem to put all the blame on women for their inability to find a girlfriend. They feel threatened by the progress made by women, particularly feminists advocating for gender equality. They may perceive feminist movements as diminishing their traditional roles or power in society, creating a sense of displacement or loss of status. As gender roles and expectations evolve, some men may struggle to adapt to new norms around dating, relationships, and career roles.

Feminist ideals, such as women prioritizing career goals or autonomy, may be viewed as conflicting with traditional relationship dynamics. This shift can lead to frustration or anger when men feel their expectations are not being met, particularly if they feel rejected or overlooked in romantic or social contexts.

Male Exclusion: Some young men feel that modern feminism focuses solely on women’s issues and neglects or dismisses men’s struggles, such as mental health, unfair custody battles, or societal pressure to conform to traditional masculinity. They may view feminism as excluding men from discussions of gender equality.

Hostility toward Men: Some men perceive certain feminist rhetoric as being overly hostile or accusatory toward men, particularly when it frames men as oppressors. This can create a defensive reaction and foster resentment, as they feel unfairly blamed for societal problems.

Isolation and Loneliness: Feeling isolated and lonely increasing number of young men are turning to places on the internet where their issues are receiving attention. Corners such as a loose collections of websites known as the manosphere where the concerns and problems of young men are taken seriously.

There is a perception among young men that the progress of women and girl in the workplace and at school has come at their expense. Young men are blaming women for their inability to find or keep a girlfriend. They believe that today’s playing field is not level, and that the deck is stacked against them. Since the young men believe their concerns are not being addressed, they seek answers and solution to their problems online. Influencers such Andrew Tate and other manosphere influencers are more than happy to help fill the void with misogyny and other negative opinions of women. The reality is that young men are indeed struggling.

Women Blaming Men

Two subject encapsulate the grievances that women have with men: “Toxic masculinity” and the #Metoo movement.

Toxic masculinity: Women often face significant challenges due to toxic masculinity, a cultural concept that pressures men to conform to harmful stereotypes of dominance, aggression, and emotional suppression. This behavior fosters environments where women experience discrimination, objectification, and even violence.

Toxic masculinity promotes the idea that men should assert control over women, leading to unequal power dynamics in relationships, the workplace, and broader society. Women who assert their independence or reject these traditional gender roles are often met with hostility, criticism, or dismissal. Additionally, toxic masculinity discourages men from engaging in healthy emotional communication or mutual respect, limiting the potential for equitable partnerships. These patterns perpetuate sexism, reinforcing a culture where women struggle to achieve full equality, respect, and safety in both personal and public spheres.

#MeToo movement: Women often blame men for the issues highlighted by the #MeToo movement because it exposes a long-standing pattern of sexual harassment, abuse, and misconduct, predominantly committed by men in positions of power. The movement has brought to light how certain toxic behaviors—such as objectification, coercion, and entitlement—have been normalized within male-dominated cultures, making women feel unsafe in professional and personal spaces.

Additionally, societal systems have historically enabled these behaviors by protecting perpetrators and silencing victims, many of whom are women. As a result, women hold men accountable for both individual actions and the broader culture that perpetuates gender-based violence.

Getting Along Is Better

Despite all of that, it is undeniable married or cohabiting couples fare a lot better than single individual whether men or women, in terms of economics. The difference is especially stark when it comes to the men. The stats in the table below prove it.

As we can see from the table being married or partnered does bring about better economic outcomes. Life is more challenging when living alone. Other benefits form being married or partnered.

Emotional Support: Marriage provides a consistent source of emotional support, with a partner to share life’s ups and downs. Having someone who is committed to your well-being can lead to greater emotional resilience and personal fulfillment.

Greater financial stability: Married couples often enjoy greater financial stability through shared income, expenses, and long-term planning. This can lead to better financial outcomes, such as buying a home, saving for retirement, or handling emergencies more effectively.

Health Benefits: Studies show that married individuals tend to have better physical and mental health. They experience lower stress levels, reduced risks of certain illnesses, and often live longer compared to their single counterparts, partly due to mutual care and support.

Shared Responsibilities: Marriage allows for the division of household responsibilities, making it easier to manage daily tasks such as cooking, cleaning, and finances. This partnership can reduce stress and increase efficiency, providing more time for leisure and personal pursuits.

Conclusion

So men and women continuing down the path of being at each others throat and arguing with one another will never lead anywhere. There so little effort to understand each other today. It is self-evident that marriage has better economic and health outcomes for society than being single. From the data we can see married people are more productive on the whole than single people. Maybe it is time to rethink our approach to relationships between men and women.